OVERHEARD: “I can’t believe you! That’s not what I said! You weren’t listening to me — you never listen to me!! You just go ahead and make these decisions and plans by yourself and pretend you don’t know what I’m talking!!!” On and on she goes.
I listen with rapt attention — this is waaaayyy more interesting than the newspaper I’m pretending to read … Oh, NO! She’s getting off! WAIT!!!! Don’t get off the metro now! Don’t leave me hanging! I want to hear the end of the conversation! Out the door and into the crowd she goes, phone glue to her ear. Gone …
For better or for worse, one-sided, unended conversations like this are part of our lives now. There’s a far more important one-sided, unended conversation going on that has nothing to do with a cell-phone. It’s the dialog inside our heads. Often it’s as angry as the woman on the cell phone.
Listen carefully to the 24-7 conversation inside. Countless dialogues, both real and imagined, good and bad, false and true — create themselves constantly in our minds. Some are beautiful friends, the voices that nurture every love-based need we have. Others are fear-based, contentious devils that effectively drain personal peace, progress and a healthy eating plan.
How to stop the destructive ones? Replace them. Your mind can only think one thought at a time. When the negative inner-dialog starts, replace it with a thought or a quote, an empowerment, count blessings… or hum a song even if just to yourself..
Here are the words to one that will help you conquer the demons of fear and inner contention today:
God bless Rodgers & Hammerstein for this memorable classic:
WHISTLE A HAPPY TUNE
Whenever I feel afraid, I hold myself erect
And whistle a happy tune, so no one will suspect I’m afraid
While shivering in my shoes, I strike a careless pose
And whistle a happy tune, So no one will suppose I’m afraid!
The result of this deception is very plain to tell
For when I fool the people I’m with, I fool myself as well
So I whistle a happy tune and every single time
The happiness in the tune
Convinces me that I’m not afraid.
Now that’s a way to end an argument with yourself. Go get a big drink of water — and start whistling. I’ll bet you can hear me whistling too. Hey! We’re sounding pretty good!